Are you blocking your own blessing?

Photo shows Jess Wilby stood in flowers

Do you know what social media cliche I hate the most? Humble bragging about ‘exciting emails‘.

Hands up. We’re all guilty of it. It’s not that I’m not happy for people, it’s just that I worry how quick we are to celebrate things before they come to fruition.

Does this feel familiar? The instant feeling of joy when you think about something, only for it to fall through, get pushed under the rug or simply not turn out as you initially expected.

It sucks.

There’s much to be said about speaking things into existence and setting intentions out loud, but patting yourself on the back for receiving the smallest hint of an opportunity is a dangerous game to play. Let me explain…

View Post

How I cope with sleepless nights

Image shows a sleepy woman (Jess Wilby) wrapped in her duvet in front of a city backdrop, with a cup of tea.

Is there anything worse than sleepless nights?

For a long time I assumed that everyone struggled to sleep. When I was in university I used to toss and turn for 4 hours a night before drifting off (and shortly waking up again later). I thought this was totally normal.

Restless nights, paranoia, wandering thoughts, nightmares, mental exhaustion; this is not normal.

View Post

Can you really reinvent yourself?

Jess from Philocalist looks into a glass panel to creat a reflection. This give the illusion of two people.

When I was younger I was a sucker for movie montages. You know the ones where the main character transforms their whole life with the help of a haircut and a credit card? I couldn’t wait to experience that exact moment, thinking I was just one shopping spree away from creating a whole new identity for myself.

It probably seems naive looking back, but so many of us are guilty of feeling the same way as adults. It’s the same concept that fuels phrases such as the ‘revenge body’. The idea that you can make your ex-jealous and recover from a breakup by transforming yourself into their ultimate fantasy.

However, there’s many more versions of the same trickery. After all, what do you think most people base their New Years Resolutions on? I’ll give you a hint, it’s definitely not about embracing your current lifestyle.

View Post

What the HECK is street wisdom?

Image Shows: Shot of Jess Wilby from Philocalist walking down a Manchester backstreet wearing a camo jacket that displays the message 'Make every day a good day'.

Before we get started, to really get an idea of what Street Wisdom is you really have to attend a session. So if you’re here looking for a sign as to whether or not you should sign up – the answer is always yes! Yes, you really should sign up right away.

Street Wisdom is a non-profit program that aims to help you answer the big questions by tuning you into the environment around you. No headphones, no notifications, just wandering.

View Post

The evolution of the day dress

The day dress is a staple piece in many women’s wardrobes. Often coming out over spring and summer, a light dress can brighten our mood and our outfits – it’s perfect for drinks at the pub, barbeques and the occasional cocktail party. But where did the day dress that we know and love begin? And how have celebrities rocked the garment over the years? Trilogy stores, retailers of womenswear from designers such as Rails Clothing, tell us more…

View Post