The anxious girl’s guide to getting in the mood to go out

Hey, do you fancy going out? Like, ‘out out’?

If you’re anything like me, you love a night out… but hate them at the same time. It’s a constant struggle. Do I want to spend a tenner on one drink or a massive Chinese takeaway? Do I want to wallow in my own self pity with only Netflix for company or do I want a mega night out with the gals? Can I be bothered with the banging headache the next day or is it worse to wake up the next day and see insta stories of your pals having fun without you?

Well gals, tonight we’re seizing the moment!

A night out every once in a while doesn’t have to be a source of anxiety for you, but just in case it is, here’s your ultimate guide to getting yourself in the mood for a night out without flaking on your mates.*

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Confessions of a wannabe trashwalker

Hotmess t-shirt dress is not long enough to cover my bum.

*Raises hand* Hi. My name is Jess, I’m 25 and I can’t find t-shirt dresses long enough to cover my fanny.

At 5ft 9inches before heels, I’m not the tallest but I’m also not the shortest. Combined with my size 12 figure, I fill out an oversized t-shirt well. Some may say too well. So well, in fact, THAT THEY ALWAYS SHOW MY BUM, FS.

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‘What if’ syndrome is FAKE NEWS

Jess Wilby sat outside Manchester town hall speaking about what if syndrome.
Do you ever feel a pang of guilt over missed opportunities? It’s so easy to sit and wonder what life would look like if you went to a different university or took a different career path.

‘What if’ syndrome seems to hit us at our very worse moments. It’s always when you’ve had a bad day and it’s hard to see a positive future, so your mind rubs salt in the wound by saying ‘Hey, it’s your fault because you missed that opportunity to take another path‘.

Don’t worry. This is a red herring.

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The fear, comfort and honor in failure

It’s time to admit that previous failures are holding me back. They’re probably holding you back too. The sting of bad grades, rejection or lost opportunities lingers on for longer than you might think. It’s a personal ember that burns away at new projects or relationships and if left unchecked, can leave you with a lasting internalised shame.

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