Do you really ‘need’ to take a holiday? | Monthly check in

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Have you caught the travel bug? Can you pass it on to me please?

Without sounding daft, I just don’t seem to have the same level of wanderlust as most people. To me, holidays are an unnecessary expense. One that takes me away from work and threatens my monthly routine. ‘But that’s the point?‘ – is it? For me to cram a month of campaign work into less time and become a burden on my peers?

You see, growing up my family and I never really went on holidays. Unless a long weekend in Scotland counts (which it totally does). I actually didn’t leave UK soil until I was 15. That’s no sob story, just context, I honestly couldn’t care less.

My granddad was a big believer in British breaks. He loved the lakes and if he wasn’t travelling, he was watching documentaries and giving his own voice over about all of the places he’s visited. In fact, losing him in December is what kick started my mission to do more walking this year.

There’s so much to do and see in the UK. Fair enough – you’re not going to get a tan, cop off with a holiday romance or try some authentic foreign cuisine, but you will see a side to the UK you’ve never seen before.

That said… I’m in a bit of a pickle this month.

My fella is unfortunately your typical ‘gap yah guy’. He went to Thailand last year and hasn’t shut up about it since coming back. I told him to go without me. After much pleading on both sides, he finally jetted off for 3 weeks in Changmai with his friend.

He came back with the crazy idea of moving out there, starting an online business and living off street food forever.

Now whilst that sounds swell, I’m not interested. I want to live in Manchester, with a bathbomb business and a little snorty pug. I have no time for gallivanting in South East Asia.

I got away with it last year, but this year he’s adamant we’re going. On many occasions I’ve sat him down and said “Go! Follow your dreams and just sod off.” I’m sure it would be sad without him, but if he needs to travel he can’t expect me to uproot with him.

The dream of living abroad has somewhat subsided, but the idea of a holiday is omnipresent. Don’t get me wrong, I’ll see the world one day. I like the sound of Patagonia and Canada, but I’m in no rush.

However, I feel like I’m massively alone in this. Surely I can’t be the only person out there who simply has better things to do than lounge around in the sun? I probably sound sour, but I genuinely don’t see the point in holidays.

I’ve tried to usual arguments:
I said it’s expensive – He said he’ll pay. (obvs won’t take him up on this)
I said we’ll go next year – He knows I’m stalling.
I said I have no time – He calls bullshit and says we can go later in the year.

What should I actually do? Waste all of my holidays at work, create a hassle for myself and go for it? Or tell him I’m simply not interested?

It seems trivial to argue, but I can’t find a middle ground. I’ve tried compromising, I really have. But he just won’t have it.

As you can see above, even my Nudo fortune cookie has an opinion on the matter! I still need yours though, cause I’m at the point where I’m actually going insane.

Is it me that just needs to stop stressing or am I right in my aversion to holidays?

7 thoughts on “Do you really ‘need’ to take a holiday? | Monthly check in

  1. I love the idea of having a holiday every year but I rarely get round to booking one, and when I do, I just can’t wait to get home again. I blame it on the fact that my life is pretty good here in the UK and I have no real need or desire to escape it, even if it’s just for a week.

    1. Omg Steph I’m so glad I’m not the only person that feels this way! It just makes me feel so anxious. I haven’t been on holiday in about 4 years and I’ve only been abroad twice because it’s a HUGE hassle. I think I’m just a bit too career motivated to consider an extended break. Which shouldn’t be a bad thing!

  2. You’re your own boss. You do what you want to do. It’s no good doing something simply to please others. You won’t be happy and you’ll resent your decision. If your heart’s not in it, then so be it. There’s nothing wrong with that. Your boyfriend has to accept that and respect your wishes. Tx

  3. If you don’t want to go just be honest and say that. While I can’t understand not wanting to take out, relax and explore everyone is different and that’s what makes the world interesting. I always plan things around holidays so make sure I get my freelance work done before, ask for longer deadlines or limit my work so that it’s not just catching up when I’m back x

    1. Oh my gosh, I couldn’t imagine going on holiday as a freelancer. The thought is actually terrifying. I’d have to absolutely smash it the month before just to take a week or so off. I don’t know how you let your hair down!

  4. I think you just need to find your balance, & your boyfriend needs to respect your boundaries. If you don’t want to travel, that is your personal choice. You are definitely in the minority, when it comes to how one feels about holidays, but there is no right or wrong when it comes to things like this. Do what’s good for you. 🙂

    Kate from http://www.kateboheme.blogspot.com

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