Attack of the negative nellies | Monthly check in

Me looking like a total negative nelly

*I’m doing at least one personal post a month now. Hence the monthly check in tag. Normal service will resume soon!

Part of me didn’t think I’d make it out of January alive! After handing my notice in at work with no other job lined up, the month was dominated by CV rewrites, interviews and sweet-talking recruiters.

See, I’d been unhappy for a while. Not just in my job, but in general. My co-workers read my blog and I’m sure they probably noticed it months back themselves. Things just weren’t working out for me. I quit metafit classes, then the gym all together. I’ve been eating poorly and grabbing unhealthy snacks in replacement of meals. Every now and again I’d have a burst of creativity, then revert back into my shell.

It’s just not been a good few months, in truth!

When you have a problem, address it.

This all started about 6 months ago. Instead of figuring out what the cause was, I started to fold inside myself and try to carry on. Sound familiar? Take it from me, this is one of the worst things you could possibly do. I’m not suggesting you shout your personal problems from the rooftops, but you’ll need to address them personally. Have a word with yourself! If you don’t, you’ll feel less and less in control of your problems and ultimately let external factors dictate your mood.

I have this motto ‘There’s no point in moaning about something if you can’t change it’. When you catch yourself feeling down, it’s important to ask why and see what you can do personally to change the situation. Now, I’m well aware that some of you might be thinking ‘I can’t help how I feel’, but just take a moment to look further.

On the surface, if something or someone is upsetting you it can feel like they’re/it is in control. However, a simple lifestyle change, quick word with the person involved or even distancing yourself from the epicentre of your issues will give you a feeling of clarity in no time at all.

It might take a while to identify your problems, so try not to make a rash move. But don’t leave it as long as I did. You won’t be doing anyone any favours.

Sometimes you need a kick up the bum!

Obviously some issues need to be address with care and I’m not saying that anxiety and depression will magically go away if with a shock to the system. However, in my case what I needed was a wake up call.

On the second day back to work in 2016, I decided it was time to leave. I’d been at the company for almost 2 years and it was definitely a hard decision, but a long time coming. After the initial panic of ‘Holy heck! I have 30 days to find a new job!’ I simply got to work building a new life. I’d wake at 4am to fit job applications in before work and spend lunch breaks turning recruiters into my new best friends.

Thankfully I managed to find a new job with 2 weeks of my notice period to go. If I didn’t, this post would certainly be very different!

My point this month is that if you’re feeling down and out – even if it means taking a huge risk – you can take control of your life. You might feel trapped, you might feel used, but what a difference a month can make.

13 thoughts on “Attack of the negative nellies | Monthly check in

  1. This is so true, if I don’t deal with my problem or talk about it, it does eat me inside. I’m lucky enough to have people in my life I can talk to and seek advice to deal with difficult situations. There’s always a solution.

    1. Oh my gosh Aymie, it’s so nice to hear from someone going through somethi similar! I’m glad you’ve turned your situation into a positive one :)!

  2. I’m really glad to hear you got a job and things are working out well for you! I’m feeling pretty down and overwhelmed at the moment with uni so it’s nice to hear someone else picking themselves up from a low period 🙂

    Teri-May xx
    http://Www.acupoft.co.uk

    1. Oh no Teri :(. I hope everything works out for you.
      University work can be a huge uphill battle, but it’s worth it in the end!

  3. I completely agree with your motto of you can’t complain about something if you’re not willing to do anything about it. Well done on finding a new job and hopefully you’ll feel much happier in this one x

  4. Such a positive post, one that will provide a lot of support and comfort to those going through similar, like me, lol! I’ve got a bit of a personal crisis going on in my own life right now. This week I acted to address it and you’re right, you just have to tack the bull by the horns and go do it. Great to hear you got a new job within 2 weeks. Tx

  5. “What a difference a day makes..24 little hours” That song is so true. You have to jump out of your negativity and just forget the past, it’s hard..but it’ll help.

    Good luck with your new mind-set 🙂 Fingers and Toes crossed for you. Amy.

  6. Aww! Hope you’re ok! It sounds like you have been through a tough time, but onwards and upwards and who knows what is in store for you next…..!! Let 2016 be a year of change and of finding what you want in life!

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