The ultimate work loo pep talk

So you’ve hidden away in the loo at work to just breathe for a second. I get it.

I like to imagine even Steve Jobs had to escape at times, collect his thoughts before proof reading a simple email for the fifth time.

Sometimes things get overwhelming, it’s completely normal, but getting back to your desk and clearing off what’s bugging you is going to make you feel better. Sitting on the toilet, counting the tiles and practising the next conversation with your boss isn’t actually helping.

It’s a distraction tactic.

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Introducing the Self Care Manifesto

Today’s the day! The Self Care Manifesto is here.

I’ve been working on this ebook for about a month. It was created out of love and frustration. Love, because I want people to take care of themselves. Frustration, because currently the self care movement focuses heavily on whimsy instead of the very basics.

This book isn’t about escaping to Bali to find yourself, it’s about the small tasks you can complete at home to cover your basic needs – mindset, food, health, finance and hygiene.

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Are you blocking your own blessing?

Photo shows Jess Wilby stood in flowers

Do you know what social media cliche I hate the most? Humble bragging about ‘exciting emails‘.

Hands up. We’re all guilty of it. It’s not that I’m not happy for people, it’s just that I worry how quick we are to celebrate things before they come to fruition.

Does this feel familiar? The instant feeling of joy when you think about something, only for it to fall through, get pushed under the rug or simply not turn out as you initially expected.

It sucks.

There’s much to be said about speaking things into existence and setting intentions out loud, but patting yourself on the back for receiving the smallest hint of an opportunity is a dangerous game to play. Let me explain…

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How I cope with sleepless nights

Image shows a sleepy woman (Jess Wilby) wrapped in her duvet in front of a city backdrop, with a cup of tea.

Is there anything worse than sleepless nights?

For a long time I assumed that everyone struggled to sleep. When I was in university I used to toss and turn for 4 hours a night before drifting off (and shortly waking up again later). I thought this was totally normal.

Restless nights, paranoia, wandering thoughts, nightmares, mental exhaustion; this is not normal.

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Can you really reinvent yourself?

Jess from Philocalist looks into a glass panel to creat a reflection. This give the illusion of two people.

When I was younger I was a sucker for movie montages. You know the ones where the main character transforms their whole life with the help of a haircut and a credit card? I couldn’t wait to experience that exact moment, thinking I was just one shopping spree away from creating a whole new identity for myself.

It probably seems naive looking back, but so many of us are guilty of feeling the same way as adults. It’s the same concept that fuels phrases such as the ‘revenge body’. The idea that you can make your ex-jealous and recover from a breakup by transforming yourself into their ultimate fantasy.

However, there’s many more versions of the same trickery. After all, what do you think most people base their New Years Resolutions on? I’ll give you a hint, it’s definitely not about embracing your current lifestyle.

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